tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post3864530105590901318..comments2023-06-07T09:45:41.281-04:00Comments on Dana's Take:Sports & Life from MY Perspective: JERRY SANDUSKY'S VICTIMS AREN'T ALONE ON THEIR ROAD TO RECOVERYDana Jacobsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-48047023212862802032020-02-14T17:46:48.942-05:002020-02-14T17:46:48.942-05:00los angeles lakers.
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kareem abdul ja...los angeles lakers.<br />magic johnson.<br />kareem abdul jabar.<br />james worthy.<br />heroes.<br />shaq oneil.<br />David Briggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12318286604250769769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-38247917311593501812012-10-25T23:57:12.630-04:002012-10-25T23:57:12.630-04:00This is so horrible, so tragic. Dana, bless your h...This is so horrible, so tragic. Dana, bless your heart for speaking out and getting it off your chest. We understand, Dana, we really do. Although I may never know what kind of pain you are going through, I am praying for you and totally supportive of whatever you do. Please stay strong, you will get through your suffering. <br /><br />I'm sure you've heard of pitcher R.A. Dickey. He was molested as a child by a baby sitter, as well. I read his book, and goes into detail about it. I am so very sorry you had to go through something like that. I think it's great that you got this off your chest. <br /><br />God bless and stay strong, Dana!<br /><br />Best regards!!The Gym Heraldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11972695500967123877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-56168628566721673582012-07-22T21:56:19.328-04:002012-07-22T21:56:19.328-04:00Dana, thank you for sharing, I was a victim of a m...Dana, thank you for sharing, I was a victim of a molestation 30 years ago at Church camp by my counselor, most of the memory I pushed way deep down and just remember being so scared of everything as a kid and as a teenager, being afraid and very uncomfortable around men throughout my life and realizing the fear was not real but my mind reacting to that situation over and over again. My life has turned out much better than I coud have ever imagined, was a standout college athlete and now married with children, great job but everyday I take medication and therapy monthly to balance it all. Your story and others help knowing I am not alone. Thanks again and God Bless!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-16073493994575199932012-06-27T21:38:35.542-04:002012-06-27T21:38:35.542-04:00Read about your blog on R. Candidate's FB page...Read about your blog on R. Candidate's FB page. GOD bless and continue to be strong!HoopLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01925059077062304176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-68534852085643815792012-06-27T02:16:09.452-04:002012-06-27T02:16:09.452-04:00Dana, you have the courage to tell the your story ...Dana, you have the courage to tell the your story about what happened. The Sandusky story got me angry, and everyone who protected him should be in prison. It is ashamed that Sandusky abused his job at Penn State to do this. Rob LaytonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-76690490889205350462012-06-26T22:12:55.641-04:002012-06-26T22:12:55.641-04:00Dear dana. May god bless u for your courage to t...Dear dana. May god bless u for your courage to talk about what happened to you. I wish u love and happinessAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14185232472670008190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-47297473969743337212012-06-26T16:54:40.174-04:002012-06-26T16:54:40.174-04:00Dana,
Thank you for having the courage to tel...Dana,<br /> Thank you for having the courage to tell your story, I know that there is always a certain amount shame and guilt that those of us that were victimized can never quite shake. The Penn State boys need to know that their pain was not in vain, but I can already see just days after Sandusky's conviction the media spotlight fading. So it will be up to us, the many thousands of victims that have never come forward to find our voice and speak out. Indeed the acts of these sexual predators can only be decsribed as monstrous, but it is a mistake for our society in general to be looking for monsters hiding in the corners. No,these Pedophiles are in plain sight and they are disguised as coaches, priests, school board members, our next door neighbors and even our family members. Now is the time to never go back to the silence. We must tell our stories but even further we must demand new legislation that abolishes the statue of limitations on sexual crimes against children. There is not statue of limitations on murder and as dramatic as this might seem being molested can only be described as a brutal murder of a childhood because NO child has the mental or emotinal capacity to consent to any sexual act.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01623548203359579692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-23469556706601702662012-06-26T13:05:34.326-04:002012-06-26T13:05:34.326-04:00Play Online Games? Click Here!<a href="http://www.ru-games.net" rel="nofollow">Play Online Games? Click Here!</a>Terminated Tazimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11521492012217887329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-43591270958278782362012-06-26T13:03:50.999-04:002012-06-26T13:03:50.999-04:00Play Online Games?<a href="http://www.ru-games.net" rel="nofollow">Play Online Games?</a>Terminated Tazimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11521492012217887329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-37680812800184800592012-06-26T10:40:25.729-04:002012-06-26T10:40:25.729-04:00Thank you Dana. Another friend of mine followed m...Thank you Dana. Another friend of mine followed my lead and posted too, so your public statement inspired at least 2 more. I read this about bravery and I'll paraphrase it here:<br />Bravery is not a feeling to wait for, it is a decision. A decision to choose compassion over fear. A decision to do what you know is right. It is hard, but we can do hard things.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05512967841949545258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-69324758313188323122012-06-26T08:55:31.325-04:002012-06-26T08:55:31.325-04:00Thanks so much for your response and taking the ti...Thanks so much for your response and taking the time to look at our site- we would LOVE your help (just sent you a direct message via twitter with my personal email) - Wendi is incredible - we are so lucky to have - and we are humbled by your offer to help our nonprofit!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13395372029344231510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-5834337285157788862012-06-26T08:45:08.504-04:002012-06-26T08:45:08.504-04:00Dana,
This may surprise you - and you'd want ...Dana,<br /><br />This may surprise you - and you'd want to consult with local counsel - but the statute of limitations may not necessarily have run out with regards to a civil action in this matter. If many tort cases, if you were a minor at the time the alleged molestation took place, then the statute of limitations may _not_ run from when the alleged crime occurred. Rather, it tolls from the day you turn 18 years old (reach the age of majority). This is because as a child, you lack the capacity to determine whether you should file an action against the accuser. You attain this capacity as soon as you reach the age of majority - and this is when the statute of limitations begins to toll. Thus, in calculating whether the statute of limitations has indeed expired (ideally through counsel), you'd begin the applicable statue of limitations period from the day you turned 18. If you are still within that time-period now, you should be able to proceed with a civil action. If you're not interested in potential proceeds from a civil action, you could donate the money to reputable charity that helps victims of such crimes, such as the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC).<br /><br />It's distressing when these terrible things happen, but some good may come of it - as it already has, by your coming forward to both sooth and enlighten others that have experienced similar trauma.<br /><br />MarcMarchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05481462150890190441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-34794432599407900782012-06-26T07:49:19.477-04:002012-06-26T07:49:19.477-04:00I am 41 years old. I was abused when I was betwee...I am 41 years old. I was abused when I was between the ages of 8-9. I too was molested by an older boy in the neighborhood, a friend of my brothers. He had a younger sister and she and I are still friends. <br />All of my teenage years I knew there was something different about me - a darkness, a pain. When I was 18 and heading to college, I told my mom that I think something happened to me as a child and she agreed, believing, "Something happened to me and recalled a time my grandmother found blood in my underwear." <br />All my life I have searched for memories, trying to recall those events to push through and understand where the pain still comes from. Years of counseling did nothing more than bring me to a point or realization that I probably never would know (Including a diagnoses of bipolar at the age of 21 - in the middle of a D1 basketball scholarship). <br />When I finally married, started a family, I had no need for memories (though they still happen); happy and "grown up," I wanted to leave behind that pain. But a few months ago I ran into m attacker. I occasionally see him - my reaction? Angry. But that day was different. My guard was down due to the death of a close friend who lost her life to breast cancer. All of that pain flooded back and I became "closer than ever" to the truth of exactly what happen - I didn't want it, didn't need it, but it is and always will be who I am. <br />For the first time in ten years, I have to reenter counseling and revisit/relive my childhood self. Unfair? Usually a summer that is filled with relaxation and refueling for the upcoming school year (I teach) is what I look forward to most (that and revising curriculum :)), but not this summer.<br />Dana, I appreciate your honesty and openness, your compassion and strength. Jerry's Sandusky's trial has been hard for us all that have been there and I pray to parents to be vigilant in their own children's lives.<br />I especially appreciate you conveying about the pain you felt from your family - even though it wasn't their fault, we blame them. Right or wrong. I grew up as you (upper middle class, two working parents, house full of brothers (3)). Even as this all has flooded back, I am so angry with my mother. <br />God bless you ;)<br />AmyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05916471238959556926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-71010043211940357222012-06-26T02:59:24.592-04:002012-06-26T02:59:24.592-04:00Dear Dana Jacobson, I really want to thank you for...Dear Dana Jacobson, I really want to thank you for all your hard work you put in at ESPN as well as other Jobs you had. I also want to thank you for telling your story about child abuse. I had a roommate who tired to sexually abuse me lucky for me I was able to fight back and defend myself. I have watched go from Cold Pizza to First Take on ESPN. And you came off so professional, and smart at the same time. I couldn't imagine how you were able to keep those emotion inside. And being a female in a sports world mostly be men you still shined bright. I'm glad you told your story so people like you and other victims are shed light on these Sic bastards who are doing this to people and getting away with it. I pray now that your story is told and the secret is off your back you can finally get some peace. I also pray that you can go back to having sweet dreams and not nightmares about the past. From the bottom of my heart I apologize for what you had to go through and keep inside all these years. I but I thank you for telling your story as well. Keep up the good work in what you do. Always be the best in the world at what you do. As for me I'm doing good as well I'm studying now to become a therapist so people can always feel the need to talk. FYI. I'm also from Detroit as well and attend Wayne State University. <br /><br />Thank you so much for being a shining star when nights get dark and lonely<br />Barron HudsonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00315824507314465953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-91160102776810088452012-06-26T01:20:51.684-04:002012-06-26T01:20:51.684-04:00Ciao Dana,
I truly hope this blog helped you and ...Ciao Dana, <br />I truly hope this blog helped you and others. As a former law enforcement official i have seen my share of the horror that is child abuse. I was fortunate enough to have a small part in the 'Clyde Turner' (high school track coach) case in Pasadena,Ca. And having gone to John Muir High school, was glad to assist in his arrrest. I believe their are other victims of his, but none came forward. I'm not sure where you are now because I haven't been able to keep up lately with ESPN. I'm praying for you to continue to have a blessed life and a easier healing process. <br />Ray C.PALLACANESTROhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07305256839160322092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-60350175432944458562012-06-26T01:17:44.929-04:002012-06-26T01:17:44.929-04:00Dana it saddens me to hear this. I was sick with t...Dana it saddens me to hear this. I was sick with this entire case. I live in PA and you can't help but to follow this story. This could have been STOPPED in 1998 when the first victim came forward. If a priest in PA can be convicted for endangering the welfare of a child the attorney general should go after the DA that did not pursue prosecution in that case. Celebrity or high profile people in the community should be treated like any other person. <br /><br />It is people like yourself that need to come forward and share their story. If you help just one person by sharing your story you have helped save someone and that feels good. I am a recovering attic to prescription drugs for pain. I share my story every time I get a chance. Weather its abuse or addiction we need to continue to share and help the ones in need. This story will help someone and you may never know it but keep sharing. We all need to keep this topic alive for years to come!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02305753020666359800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-66596234860399289962012-06-26T00:32:36.362-04:002012-06-26T00:32:36.362-04:00Dana thank u for sharing that story I to was a vic...Dana thank u for sharing that story I to was a victim and I did not say anything intill I was 12 I got help for my problems and I encourage those who are victims too speak out loudAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05059840420927776598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-146882994491030772012-06-26T00:29:04.432-04:002012-06-26T00:29:04.432-04:00It doesn't go away quickly but I hope it's...It doesn't go away quickly but I hope it's at least lessened (the fallout that is). Hopefully it doesn't define your life, whoever hurt you doesn't deserve to have that power over you.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-10314123429454251572012-06-26T00:28:03.222-04:002012-06-26T00:28:03.222-04:00Thank you. Can't be afraid to ask for help. I...Thank you. Can't be afraid to ask for help. I'm not good at it, but I've done it!!Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-9766668707272932732012-06-26T00:27:28.430-04:002012-06-26T00:27:28.430-04:00Thank you for sharing Judy. I do think laws have ...Thank you for sharing Judy. I do think laws have to change for us to ensure that the people who commit these crimes are held accountable. I'd love to believe that more kids will speak out but knowing how tough that is, not sure if that's realistic.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-68692370296764212942012-06-26T00:25:34.369-04:002012-06-26T00:25:34.369-04:00No story is small, it is your story. As I said in...No story is small, it is your story. As I said in my piece there is no discrimination here. Abuse is abuse. Every one of us who says something helps, nothing small about that either.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-18865427675681388042012-06-26T00:24:24.839-04:002012-06-26T00:24:24.839-04:00Good for you. As I said there is some good that c...Good for you. As I said there is some good that can come from such an awful thing.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-5643758879119837642012-06-26T00:23:00.731-04:002012-06-26T00:23:00.731-04:00It's a different process for us all but I thin...It's a different process for us all but I think there will be good to come from this awful scandal for others.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-10086846308004146792012-06-26T00:21:11.807-04:002012-06-26T00:21:11.807-04:00Not a hero just someone trying to do what is right...Not a hero just someone trying to do what is right and make something good come from something so bad. My dad was always there for me and no doubt would have been in this case if I'd said something, he certainly was after. Strong fathers raise strong daughters so good for you!Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8414119039681620043.post-10724241626215135612012-06-26T00:19:03.792-04:002012-06-26T00:19:03.792-04:00Im so sorry for what you went through and your fam...Im so sorry for what you went through and your family. Finding forgiveness or some level of peace isn't easy. We all go through our own process I'm glad you've found such success in yours.Dana Jacobsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16405741782141608064noreply@blogger.com